Leadership Education

Choosing Civility

LDR 100 • LAS Group Project • December 7th

Overview:

This is a blog about the book my group read for our LDR 100 group presentation. The book was Choosing Civility and my group was myself, Sarah, Riley, Jacob, Billy, Julia, Ash, and Vanessa. The book Choosing Civility is about the 24 rules of civility which is by definition “formal politeness and courtesy in behavior or speech”. These 24 rules  describe how to live life and treat people with civility. Furthermore, it is explained that these rules help create caring leaders and overall, develop care for others. Personally, I appreciated the book and enjoyed reading the different rules. Also, I liked learning about how to adopt the 24 rules into daily life in order to become a better person and leader. Overall, the book gives the reader ways to become a better human in the world we live in today and with one comes many.

Project:

For our project that went along with the book we chose to do two smaller projects. Concerning the first project, we went around Barnes, the Leadership Institute, and North Campus handing out positive affirmations. A few of the quotes/ notes we handed out were… “Dream Big”, “Worry less & Smile more”, “Believe in Yourself”, and Happy mind, Happy Life”. With the positive affirmations we handed out over 100 little notes to many different people {Hopefully brightening their days}. It was wonderful to see the people smile when we handed out notes or say that it’s just what they needed today. Through this project we choose civility and spoke kindly to others. During the next project the 8 people in my group make positive notes for specific people in our LAS cohort. I had 6 people to write notes about and really tried to make them personal and loving. My 6 people were my best friend Ryan, my roommate Olivia, my AST sister Ellen, my friends Mary & Blake, and my soon to be roommate Alexa. Knowing these 6 very well, I was able to write more about them, refrain from idle compliments and acknowledge them.

What I Learned:

To become a good leader and over all human you must CHOOSE CIVILITY every hour of every day. Furthermore, you can make a huge difference by considering these 24 rules and living by them. Even if it’s just one person you will have a positive impact on their lives and positivity flows from person, to person. Also, it is ok to mess up, we are only human and it happens, but if you follow the rules they will become a part of your life and you won’t have to think about it. Finally, I learned how to adopt the rules into my everyday life whether I am a leader or not. It is about changing the world one civilized person at a time, but as I said before, you only need one person to start a movement and positivity is a movement.

The Rules:

  1. Pay Attention
  2. Acknowledge Others
  3. Think the Best
  4.  Listen
  5. Be Inclusive
  6. Speak Kindly
  7. Don’t Speak Ill
  8. Accept and Give Praise
  9. Respect even a Subtle “No”
  10. Respect Others Opinions
  11. Mind your Body
  12. Be Agreeable
  13. Keep it Down
  14. Respect other People’s Time
  15. Respect other People’s Space
  16. Apologize Earnestly
  17. Assert Yourself
  18. Avoid Personal Questions
  19. Care for your Guests
  20. Be a Considerate Guest
  21. Think twice before asking for Favors
  22. Refrain from Idle Compliments
  23. Accept and Give Constructive Criticism
  24. Don’t Shift Responsibility and Blame

 

 

 

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